Restart or Refresh?

 'We begin from where we left' 

I do not know why but people seem to think this is the most ideal form of reconnecting. So hear me out.

Relations evolve with time as people grow and change. And during this relations may turn sour or get distant. These are the relations which need a 'reconnection'. 

Now, if we begin from where we left then wouldn't the sourness be the point of your reconnection? Or the awkwardness of the distant between you two? Instead of restarting from where we left why don't we focus on acknowledging that both have grown as persons and can maybe give the relation a new shot from a different perspective. My experience says that things can never be the way that they once were.

Getting back with former close friends will be much easier this way. I don't want to continue with the disagreement which let to the slow demise of our friendship neither do I want to go back to the time we slowly fell apart and were not important in each others' lives any more.

I've reconnected with friends and the ones that blossomed into something better than before, are which helped us accept the growth and made our renewed relation evolve with time. 

So yeah, that's my take on renewed connections with no cringe lines like ' you changed ', ' you were better before ', ' how did we fall apart ', ' I still don't understand why you felt bad '. 

I'd like to hear ' good to see you grow ', ' wow, so much has changed for the good', ' so good to know that you are doing well ', etc.

Don't get me wrong I'm all for conflict resolution but when two persons outgrow each other no amount of resolution will bring them closer. But I strongly believe that life works in mysterious ways and they might come close again in a different form of a relation.

Thanks for reading.






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  1. RamakrishnaApril 28, 2021 at 11:47 PM

    Thoughtful.. may be I use this for reconnecting my old friends.. 🙌

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    1. palryu7April 29, 2021 at 1:19 AM

      Thanks for reading. ☺️ I hope you have a good experience reconnecting with your friends.

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